Saturday, November 21, 2009
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Over Qualified........?
It’s a toss up these days. Which way to go is a thing to ponder. You have so many ways, to search for a job and it gets even harder, to get one in the publice realm. There are so many people out of work. Some by choice, some from lay-off’s, retirements, company closings. It’s a problem, many people endure, daily.
If your over 50 years of age, here comes the problem, right? You go to an interview, and what happens? You know all too well, what happened, when you get a letter saying, you were “over qualified”, for the position. I’ve been there done that.
Oh they say, they are an equal opportunity employer. Not so, if your not young and just starting out then they don’t want you. They want the dashing young men in the offices. The cute sexy, tailered young ladies, have to be on the front desks, to cater to the executives. Administrative assistant, consists of a well dressed, college professors, with 1 to 2 masters degrees in business administration, under the age of 40.
If you don’t have a good background in some high powered originization, by the time your in your 40’s, good luck on the position, you will be offered. Many older people, are thankful to be accepted for medial jobs, that rarely pay more than $7.00 to $10.00 per hour.
“Over qualified”, is a term used to really say, your “too old” and we want someone younger in the position. I’ve also, been told that, I probably wouldn’t stay with the job, because I wouldn’t be getting the pay I had been accustomed to. So, they decided not to hire me, based on that. They never ask if you just want a job closer to home, so you don’t have to drive so far. They never ask if your just wanting to supplement your social security or your spouse’s income. It’s always, “wow, your really qualified for a better position, than this one”, why do you want this job? Not very often do you find an company that wants an employee, experienced and mature enough to appreciate a good paying job. It’s very easy to get discouraged, when trying to get employment at an older age. I’m sure many of you have suffered the same indignities, I have. It would be nice to be able to speak out without reprecussions. I know there are advocates out there, but they’re never where we need them to be, when it’s our problem happening. It’s very embarrassing, to have to ask for help, after all that we’ve been through in the past years. We’ve worked hard and deserve respect, that we don’t get. Yet, we keep trying, rather than give up.
To Believe.......
Many things come to mind, as I write this post. Mostly I find the reasons, come from within. Finding reasons to believe, are very hard to do, when you are so wrapped up in other feelings and locations of emotions. You may ask, what are we believing in on this subject or that? Well, it may be yourself, your mom, dad, sibling, a friend, mentor or great leader. Things that help us believe, come from the heart, inspiration, or just a incident that happened, waiting for us to see it. Believing in something gives us a reason to live our life daily, in the manner, we need to feel comfortable. If we believe, then there is a strength to carry us through any occurrence, we may come in contact with. To believe, is to have a reason or a value in which, to live and have hope of the future.
Almost Gone
Some say it’s just another year, but in reality it’s another year gone by and we just can’t get it back. It’s like a bad comment, that we can’t wish, we hadn’t said. The older I get the harder it is to watch them go by.
The children are in such a hurry, to grow up, that reality for them, is delusional. They can’t see how far it is, to growing up the way, we the older people can see it. Full of energy and life, they strive to get the years behind them, so they can get to another point in life.
I remember the young adult years. It seemed they were so busy, with the predominate things needing to be done. How fast they flew. Here I am saying, “Why it was only yesterday”…… a familiar phrase heard so many times, from my parents and grandparents. ”It was”, only yesterday or so it seemed.
New Year’s brings memories of the old year and hopes of good things in the new one. Our emotions overwhelm us when looking back to what was and what is now. Our hope runs amok, with great expectations, of happiness, love, good fortunes, and financial stability. Yes, it will be a new year, to reach for all new things and hold in your heart the memories of the past.
Another One Shot.......
Well, there it went. Right down the drain, just like so many others. I have a lousy track record for friendships. I just can’t seem to get it right. You think things are going good and poof, they blow up in your face. I’ve always considered a good friendship not to have boundaries. But I sure was wrong on that idea.
The idea that a friend was there no matter what, or that a friend would understand or care about what was going on with you, just became my ideas. Not anyone else’s. I guess I’m just too old fashion. I believe with all my heart, love the same and try to be a friend as well.
I finally allowed myself to try again to have this type of relationship with someone, and once again was shot down. I forgot that their life has it’s own querks and that I must remember that there are boundaries, to a friendship. I guess I think that everyone has the same ideas, and values that I do.
Heck, I also forgot that this is a diversified world of people, who have been raised in different environments, than me. Who did I think I was to be so selfish as to think everyone could think and feel like me? I’m so out of touch with reality, that I actually tried!
I’m sure it will be a long time again, before I’ll do that same thing. I don’t like being treated with disdain and talked to in such a horrible manner. So, to protect myself from such candor, I will go back into my safe shell and stay there. It’s much safer inside and I can like myself anyway I want to. Darn that sounds childish. I guess there’s just been too much rejection in my world, for me to be able to cope very often. I can’t accept making the effort and having it thrown back at me, like a bad piece of meat. So, I’ll just stay the heck out of everyone’s way and make my own way.
Just another day in paradise.
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